Beyond “Whimp” Cultivating Courage (Part II)
This is a second part of the series on how to build your courage muscle.
One of my favorite saying about courage from Nelson Mandela:
I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.
Firstly, courage isn’t the absence of fear. Secondly, we can triumph over fear. Finally, by conquering our fears, we cultivate the courage muscle.
1) Have Some Healthy Dose of Fears.
On the one hand, fear can be your indicator. It can tell you what action to take. On the other hand, rarely, there can be some real dangers in life.
Your job is to differentiate real fears from imaginary.
For example, a fear of bugs and spiders is an imaginary fear. In fact, it is a learned fear. You can decrease it dramatically. While being chased by a tiger or if someone is chasing you with a gun is a real fear. But honestly, what was the last time you were chased by either?
So, living courageously means dealing with some level of fear but taking actions anyway.
2) Improve Your Game.
Assuming that a tiger is not chasing you. It is time to “up” your game. Sometimes you fuck things up, other times you fall. Stop, regroup, figure out what you need and work on it. As a matter of fact, the best way to improve your life is by facing your fears and working through your obstacles.
“The obstacle in the path becomes the path. Never forget, within every obstacle is an opportunity to improve our condition.”― Ryan Holiday,
Currently, I am scared of walking with my dog due to my poor response time. So, I am working on my hand-eye-coordination to overcome it. We are taking a break from walks for the next few months until I will get better.
What scares you the most? Which actions are you taking?
3) Face Death When It Comes.
“Everyone dies. Not everyone really lives”
There are many things you can do to live a healthier life filled with adventure and love. In fact, small and consistent steps lead to the biggest changes.
Make a commitment to do what you love, to explore your passions.
Choose a few things you fear the most and create your game plan on you want to do before you die.
Get busy living and face death when it comes!
To Sum Up: