If you want to know if your meditation is working, listen to your inner dialog and observe your relationships.
Become friends with yourself. Once you learn how to treat yourself well, it will automatically translate into your relationships with others and the world.
Learn how to manage stress. In our culture, we demonize stress. Yet, stress is not something that happens to us but rather a physical reaction to our circumstances. Both pain and stress are reactions multiplied by resistance.
Reduce brain chatter.