Yoga of Dog Walking

Beyond “Whimp” Cultivating Courage (Part I)

What is Yoga of Dog Walking? In short, if you want to know your yoga practice is working then, walk a dog.

Why do you practice yoga? Or why do you take any actions in your life, for that matter?

Now, post your answer in the comment field below in one or two sentences. Try not to use too many words – whatever comes to mind. Do it quick!

SOFLY Yoga of Dog Walking

You can say that this is a very loaded question.  Nonetheless, you might be wasting your time and consequently your life if you can’t answer it.

I am My Best Friend

SOFLY Yoga of Dog Walking
Photo Credit: Diane Johnson Rocky Socializing”

I go first. I practice yoga to become my best friend. In other words, I need to know myself. In fact, everything I do revolves around gaining an insight into the self. I don’t like being myself. Rather, I’d like to work towards being my best possible self. At the same time, always working on eliminating toxic parts of myself.

I have a four-fold formula to work towards my best possible self:

  1. Learn who I am with all my strengths and flaws.
  2. Get feedback.
  3. Create a plan of action to improve.
  4. The accountability system (carrot and stick – this is not self-beating!).

For example, let’s say that I am trying to lose weight. Firstly, I know that my tendencies are to use food when I am stressed or bored. I’ve learned that fact by keeping track of my daily log (writing) and meditation practices. So, I incorporated play and changed my perception of stress. Secondly, I use a scale and a measurement tape as a feedback mechanism. Sometimes, I reach out to people I admire and who walked the way. Thirdly, I plan my meals. Next, if I don’t follow through, I stop eating chocolates. On the other hand, I reward myself with a massage, hike, or spa day.

In fact,  weight loss and muscle building are quite simple things to achieve.

But what about character-building qualities like courage? Can we change some of the fundamental workings of ourselves?

What Do You Choose: Love or Fear?

SOFLY Yoga of Dog Walking
Photo credit: Anna Sheinman NYC Trapeze

I am a realistic optimist. However, I am a fatalist by nature. From time to time, my world is black and white. Life blessed me with many experiences (some of them were near-death) even though I am only 41 years young. I tend to think of myself as one tough and courageous individual with that in mind. However, my life kicks me in my arse time and time again.

And it is great!

For example, my heart yearns for adventures. However, I often freeze with fear. For instance, when I’ve tried flying trapeze, I lost my ability to move and understand language. Next, when I rock-climbed for the first time, I only froze in the middle of the mountain. Finally, I nearly burned my skis after getting splattered amid the mountain.

On the other hand, I am very persistent and can’t accept “no” as an answer. So, I kept rock-climbing until I reached the top of the mountain. Similarly, I practiced trapeze flying until I was not frozen. Also, I got to a good intermediate level in skiing. But, again, I was scared every time I took risks. But, I was able to work through the fear.

There are only two emotions in my world: love and fear.

Why Do You Freeze with Fear?

SOFLY Yoga of Dog Walking
Photo Credit: https://pixabay.com/
Staying frozen in place is the defense mechanism. However, one problem with the freeze response is that it can cause you to be paralyzed by fear. A brain pathway may be the root of this response to freezing. The University of Bristol discovered a chain of neural connections that originated in the cerebellum. These neural connections can cause the body to freeze when activated by real or imagined, threatening stimuli automatically.
The good news is that you can rewire your brain if your love is stronger than your fear.
So, fear is rooted deeply in your brain. And your brain is just like any muscle – with some flexing – you can override these neurobiological impulses.

How Dogs Can Train Us.

SOFLY Yoga of Dog Walking
Photo Credit: Anna Sheinman – “Dog’s Life”
One of my favorite play activities is to spend time with my dog (Rocky) exploring the magnificent Rocky Mountains.  My four-year-old pup is about 65 pounds of pure muscle and has very high energy. Rocky is very picky, whom he befriends.  I never know if we will play with a dog or bite their heads off. With this in mind, I don’t allow him to interact with other dogs on the trail.
My strategy is to take him on walks super early where there are practically no chances to bump into anyone. Equally important, I carry water spray, pepper spray and use different collars.

Not to mention that I’ve spent the last four years changing my behavior and learning the dog language. Rocky and I got very lucky to train with Altitude Dog Training.

With all that said, we’ve gone a long way. Rocky never bit anyone’s head off. He is super trained. Of course, I handled most of the situations until my recent mini-crisis attack.

Don’t Allow A Single Battle to Throw You Down 

SOFLY Yoga of Dog Walking
Photo Credit: https://pixabay.com/

It is disappointing to lose a battle. But shit happens. We can lose our business, jobs, loved ones, even our health.

Just like life, the war is not over yet! If your business fails or you loose your job, you can find a new one. You can change your diet and lifestyle to get better or die trying.

I lost my battle as I allowed two neighborhood dogs to attack my dog with that in mind. It is irrelevant what the other pet parent or their dogs were doing. I only have control over my actions and energy.

So, at this moment, all my training went to waste. I froze and failed to protect the one I loved the most. Instead of using the pepper spray or kicking the dog, I froze with fear, restricted my dog, and allowed the attack. Luckily, Rocky only got his eye scratched, and I got several bruises. But it could’ve been worst.

Stop Being a Sissy

SOFLY Yoga of Dog Walking

James Fox and Tim Ferriss discussed how most English-speaking people around the world are becoming thin-skinned and weak nations.
In my example, I was totally sinking when I came home from this accident. I feel sorry for myself. Also, I was disappointed that I utterly failed in battle.
So, I am not a tough as I think. Now, what?
Deliberate Practice.
SOFLY Yoga of Dog Walking
Photo Credit: Brian Bergford
It was time to stop feeling sorry for myself and take action! Although, in all honesty, it was challenging to give up my doggie walk. Especially as a fatalist, it seemed that it was a permanent thing.
Fortunately, I am gifted with two amazing men in my life. The first one is my husband. And the second one is my mentor – Brian Bergford (with altitude dog training). Instead of feeling sorry for me, they both provided constructive feedback. Firstly, both men agreed that my hand-eye coordination sucks. At the same time, I realized that I need to stop freezing when facing imaginary or real fear.
While my husband helped me with tools to improve my hand-eye coordination, brain and I brainstormed on how to conquer my freeze response and discussed the plan of action.
Coming up in the next blog! Stat tuned…

Thanks for reading, please share your story.

3 thoughts on “Yoga of Dog Walking”

  1. I’ve overcome my own fear of running into loose dogs here in our rural NC area by being prepared and carrying tools on me for self-defense purposes, very similar to you. My tools are a loud whistle, vinegar spray, pepper spray, and I now also carry a flashlight/taser combo with me at night time (found on Amazon for 50 bucks).

    While having those tools handy and ready to use is one part of my equation for dog walking, the other one is the peace of mind those tools provide and thus make me feel more confident. I KNOW that I can pepper spray the heck out of a dog if need be, and I KNOW that I can call for help with my whistle should we be attacked by a loose dog or a human perpetrator, for that matter.

    I’ve also overcome my fear of going on longer road trips on my own, accompanied only by my dogs. I was terrified the first time I prepared to debark on a 12 hour road trip. I have since done it several times and am now confident in my ability to pull it off. I think pushing ourselves outside of our respective comfort zones really makes us grow. You are so right that we have to face our fears.

    Reply
    • Thanks, Barbara! These would be useful tools to add to your toolbox! I don’t typically walk when it is dark. Also, have a whistle.
      Certainly calm and assertive energy on walks is the key.

      Yes, we need to keep facing fears. Still, personally, I need to improve my hand-eye-coordination. I think one part of the problem is that I never played sports or video games as a kid…

      You are my hero!

      Reply

Leave a Comment

More

Related Posts

Sofly Do You Yoga Find Your Warrior!

How to Feel Good This Summer Instantly in 10 Easy Steps

I was taking one of my early summer mornings strolls in the forest.  As I was soaking in the shade of the quiet morning sun, I thought about seasons.  Seemingly, autumn, spring, and winter were mellow, but the summer seemed to hit us in one single day, with its quick-burning and growing energy yelling, “Go,

women doing pilates

How to Get Started with Pilates in 3 Days or Less

Introduction: Pilates is one of the most popular forms of exercise in the world, and for a good reason: it’s effective, efficient, and relatively low-impact. But for newcomers, starting a pilates routine can seem daunting. With so many videos, classes, and machines available, how can you be sure you’re picking the right one? And more

Anna Sheinman strong core

Discovering Your Powerhouse

You’ve got the power – how to effortlessly engage your core to empower your body and free your spirit. We try to find balance, ease, and grace throughout our human lives. I believe we live in extraordinary times – the golden age. Our life can be a fantastic tool for self-realization. We have the eastern